MOB #9 : LTHYW3

Love the Hair You Wear 3 was as always insanely informative and full of beauty products! This year majority of my goodies were full sized! The gems of LTHYW3 after several weeks of experimentation are Cantu’s Apple Cider Vinegar Root Rinse and the matching Dry Co-Wash! The root rinse gives you that tingly clean. Extremely refreshing through the wash out process. You’ll feel like you have a new head!

On the beauty side Sweet Air wowed me with my perfect shade of 3D shadow. The shade Pixel is sheer deep copper. Blends Very well!

The moral of Love The Hair You Wear 3 was clip your ends. I’ll leave you to interpret that anyway you like. Until next year …

Aggie Pride NYC

 

One of my best friends is receiving the NYC Chapter young alumni achievement award at the Honoree & Scholarship dinner for the NC A&T Alumni Association ♡ Jheri Hardaway

Posted by RaeMonique Blount on Saturday, June 24, 2017

Special thank you to the New York City Chapter of the North Carolina A&T State University Alumni Association. I truly feel motivated by the celebration of my efforts. I am inspired and excited to continue to serve the history committee and NYC community.

AGGIE PRIDE!

MOB #8 : Birth of a Nation Review

 

screen-shot-2016-10-08-at-9-09-20-amAll history matters, especially suppressed Black history. The story of Nat Turner is one that America needs to digest as a microcosm of the lies history has told about slavery and the Black experience.

I recently attended a New York premier of Nate Parker’s Birth Of A Nation and it’s about time someone addressed these truths. It’s interesting Solange Knowles dropped A Seat At The Table in the same week because Birth Of A Nation left me feeling a lot like her song “F.U.B.U.” finally our stories are being told, our heros are being acknowledged. 

Not at the expense of anyone else but because we’ve suffered and we overcame. There is more to American history than Christopher Columbus, John Smith, and Abraham Lincoln. No one can change history and the atrocities humans have committed against one another but we can acknowledge, accept, learn, and move forward.

 

 

Many individuals opposing the Black Lives Matter movement fail to realize, we’ve come along way but we suffer from the residuals and aftershocks of our 400 years of oppression. This movie helps define the plight and pain that many continue to deny and it highlights the strength and dignity a group of people maintained when even their bodies were not their own.

In 1712, Willie Lynch wrote a letter outlining his guaranteed methods to oppress Black people he stated, “I have a foolproof method for controlling your black slaves. I guarantee everyone of you that if installed correctly it will control the slaves for at least 300 years …. you must pitch the old Black vs. the young Black male, and the young Black male against the old Black male. You must use the dark skinned slaves vs the light skinned slaves, and the light skinned slaves vs. the dark skinned slaves. You must use the female vs. the male, and the male vs. the female. You must also have your servants and overseers distrust all Blacks, but it is necessary that your slaves trust and depend on us. They must love, respect, and trust only us.”

300 years later the offspring of the individuals forced to work for free yell ‘Black Lives Matter’ attempting to break the promise of Lynch to many deaf ears with full mouths who wish the Lynch legacy would continue. All live matter, which we know and accept. Nat Turner knew and accepted this truth when he agreed to baptize a white man because that man in the eyes of Turner was a child of God. But even this was an act unthinkable to Turner’s master who allowed him to preach the gospel when it was profitable but believed selectively in the word of the lord like so many others then and now.

 

In addition, to the strange fruit scene in Birth Of A Nation, the scene that struck me the most was Gabrielle Union’s character leaving the master’s house and reluctantly falling into the arms of her husband after being forced to give her soul to a stranger. The fact that this was as regular as fetching water from the well alone made the rebellion make sense. A man watching the violation of his wife, and Nat watching the physical recovery of his. This is the story of our Grandmothers. How can black men and women not hurt and weep for our sons and daughters in a world that turns a blind eye to how the state of black America came to be? How can America attempt to overlook generations of sexual abuse evident in the light hues of black skin and the exotic hair textures that some beg to touch and others attempt to imitate.

 

Open your eyes America!

 

Nate Parker rewrote history correctly, this is the real Birth Of A Nation. This film will undoubtedly birth a colorless society of aware revolutionaries that are unified by a consciousness our nation has never known because it hid and denied the history. The Americans that acknowledge and learn from Nat Turner will be the ones to make America great for the first time. How can we claim greatness when we deny the suffering of an entire group of people that picked the cotton, laid the bricks, birthed and nursed the babies, kept the home, and laid down their lives to give future generations a chance and freedom and a shot at the American dream?

 

It’s time to shine. Nate Parker’s film Birth Of A Nation, is fantastic from the historical accuracy, to the quality of the costumes and set, to the thought provoking lines in the script. This is a must see for every American 15 years old and up. I love to say, only great art comes from suffering and this film is a testament to that statement. Let’s allow the past be our professor and learn. Let’s open up the next chapter of love, respect, understanding, and freedom in our book of American history and life.

RIP Nat Turner.

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S.O.Social Media

Parents, able Grandparents, older brothers, sisters, cousins, and people of authority we must  do something about our young minds being led astray by social media and mobile technology! Working in the classroom and with school administrators, I’ve seen first hand the havoc social media is wreaking on school age children and the lasting effects that students cannot quite grasp yet. As socially conscious adults, it is our responsibility to protect these young impressionable souls from the rawness of the online world for a menagerie of reasons but principally the following:

  1. Social media is weakening the young mind’s ability to make decisions. Brendon Burchard of Brendon.com said it best “Stop browsing so much!” (Skip to 3:52 for the heart of the message).

    Young minds are already all over the place and easily distracted. By fostering this culture of browsing the mind is over stimulated and consequently weaker when it really matters the most. President Barack Obama does not pick out his own suits because of decision fatigue, imagine how Instagram can impact third grader with a developing mind!
  2. Many things young people see on social media they are seeing and or hearing for the first time. With no one engaging alongside of them they are forced to draw their own often erroneous conclusions that they carry out into the world. Young minds often cannot discern what they are seeing online from reality. They are buying into false concepts of beauty, falling victim to predators, and in the worst cases coming across terror related propaganda dragging them in a direction none of us want to accept as a problem.
  3. Nudes are a huge problem in schools! Every school I’ve shared my S.O.Social Media seminar with has dealt with ‘oversharing’ and cyber bullying. Since the biggest celebrities of our time do it … frequently … students do too.  Even worse, students often leak each other’s nude photos to friends just like adults do. But in the educational environment this can be devastating on another level. screen-shot-2016-09-12-at-5-26-49-pm

 

Recommendations to prevent and help heal the damage that has already been done.  

  1. Buy less than smartphones, no cameras or applications. This type of phone will be less of a distraction during the school day. Teachers are losing precious time confiscating phones from distracted students. This takes away from the teaching and learning process for all involved.
  2. Browse social media as a family activity. Make family accounts allowing everyone to like what they like, and follow who they wish to follow. This way social media is bringing the family together not creating barriers. This can also help if your child will not allow you to follow them. Break down that wall!
  3. Save the headphones for games and road trips. You might not have time to police daily engagement but if you can hear what they’re watching or doing you can make determinations on whether it’s appropriate or not.
  4. Continuously communicate that everything online is forever.
  5. Propose alternatives like playing outside or reading a book!

It’s not about having the coolest phone in the 7th grade. It’s about not having nudes pop up in a Google Image search when your kid is applying for college. Don’t let what lives on the internet become your child’s reality.

There are lots of ways to use social media for good. But I’ll save that for another post…

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Nike SB + OFASHO


Nike is showing New York a lotta love this summer. The sport giant upgraded a Greenpoint skatepark then hosted a block party with all kinds of giveaways to celebrate the reopening. Skaters were impressed and appreciative of the fresh space, which Brooklyn News12 reports cost Nike SB over $300k. Check out the new McCarron Skatepark in Williamsburg, Brooklyn on ‪#‎GoSkateboardingDay‬ featuring an official OFASHO beat.

You Can’t Hide Heart


You Can’t Hide Heart

Will I ever write a poem as beautiful as Maya’s?

Will I ever hit a note as high as Mariah’s?

Will I ever love a King like Empress Menen?

If I hold my head high past the flying fruit like Ruby will I ever get in?

Must I continue to sail the high seas like Ida B to tell my horrific story?

Or should I swing a racket next to my sister to earn power and glory?

Maybe I should pick out my crown like Kathleen and ball up my fists?

Or rock a beret like Queen B at the half and stunt on the risk?

So many questions but for me the answer is this.

All the spirits whisper, grab a pen and work your wrist.

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I wonder what the world would be like if we were identified by the emotion we show most often. Our conversations would be like “Hey Hater, have a seat right over there” or of course positive emotions like, “Wow Confidence I’m so proud of you!” Even, “Hey Lonely, come here I have something special for you.” Would we be happier as humans if our emotions were better understood by the people around us? Can emotional intelligence make the world a better place? I think so, because if someone texts you, “Hi Lover, what time do you get off work?” You’ll be a more pleasant person for the rest of the work day. Snow White and her dwarfs really were on to something.

At the very least people would be forced to accept what they project. It might be what we need as a human race. It could lead to a better understanding of ourselves as human beings. It is amazing how many people in this world never study their reflection. To some the man in the mirror is the only man in the world. Their actions lack retrospection; they never consider stepping outside themselves for perspective.

I learned perspective growing up in North Carolina. Every year March Madness shuts down the state. Rivalries are real amongst neighbors NC State, Duke, Carolina, Wake Forest, and more. Regardless of what set you claim, excuse me school, one part of March Madness is universal. No, not filling out brackets, not Future’s interpretation, “I’m ballin like it’s March Madness.” I’m referring to legendary NC State Basketball Coach Jimmy Valvano and his famous ESPY speech, “Don’t ever give up.”

I remember Jimmy V’s advice vividly, “To me, there are three things we all should do every day. We should do this every day of our lives. Number one is laugh. You should laugh every day. Number two is think. You should spend some time in thought. And number three is, you should have your emotions moved to tears, could be happiness or joy. But think about it. If you laugh, you think, and you cry, that’s a full day. That’s a heck of a day. You do that seven days a week, you’re going to have something special.”

The world would be different if emotions were apparent. To me emotions make the man or woman or child. If we can find ways to share what we feel and staying in control like Coach V said, “you’re going to have something special.” Show the world the strongest you and try not to hurt anybody in the process. Emotions are essential and being aware of your emotions can save and serve you at the same time.

Dream #13

More Dreams

 

A few days ago spring began. Josh and Justin went to pick up beer from the store. They always get the same beer, High Life; from the same store, Tony’s. These men are creatures of habit. Josh repeats the same idiom every time the homies pop their first can, “It may not be the highest grade in the dispensary but this some good beer.”

 

Justin co-signs with this infamous, “Right on.”

 

Josh exhales, “Did I tell you about my dream?”

 

Justin, “Nah, but I love a good dream. What happened?”

 

Josh shrugs nonchalantly launching into the tale:

 

I really don’t know where to start but the weather was strange. The earth quaked at least six times and it rain a lot too. I could never tell the difference between things I thought and things I actually said. It was so confusing but I didn’t have time to be frustrated since I had so much to figure out. Oh and my abs were super tight. I don’t know why. Maybe I was worried but I remember how sore they were and I couldn’t figure out why. This was confusing too but I had to keep going. Even though I didn’t know where I was going. Isn’t that funny? Just like in life when we don’t know where to go but we keep going. Dreams are the same.

 

Justin co-signs, “Right on!”

 

Josh jumps back into his dream:

 

The rain turned into snow but I wasn’t cold. I told my feelings to turn off when the sun went down. I only felt determined but I never really knew why. There was a woman I remembered from when we were kids. She was tall and she was glowing in the dark. People were lining up to talk to her but I kept walking because I couldn’t remember her name. Everyone that spoke with her left with a smile and I wanted to go to her, but I forgot the lesson I learned and I was too embarrassed to stare until it all came back to me. I was afraid I’d waste too much time and wake up never figuring out where I was meant to be. Then these thoughts surfaced and I couldn’t help but repeat them in my head over and over, “Am I here greet destiny? Will I always walk alone or will someone stand next to me? Am I here greet destiny? Will I always walk alone or will someone stand next to me? Am I here greet destiny? Will I always walk alone or will someone stand next to me? Am I here greet destiny? Will I always walk alone or will someone stand next to me?” There were no hints and no clues. Just time passing quietly.

Josh pauses and takes a few sips from his beer. Caught up in the suspense Justin inquires, “So what happened next?”
Josh replies, “I don’t know. I’m not sure if I don’t remember or if I woke up.”